So I'm totally...

psyched that my best friend Tuffie finally watched "Sex and the City". I told him that if nothing else it would definitely be an experience for him. And sure enough it was.

There were several themes in the movie, but to me the main one was forgiveness.

Forgiving, in my opinion, is a form of a gift that one could bestow on someone else. Just like love, forgiveness is something you never just give away easily and to just anyone. Forgiveness has a lot of weight, importance, and power. It can relieve someone of pain and misery, it can also mend relationships and bridge gaps between adversaries.

Transgressions are of varying degrees that require specific kinds of forgiveness. There's the forgiveness that erases everything, and there's the kind that we give that never forgets. The latter of the two is considered the consolation prize, cause let's face it, when significant damage is done there's no way to repair it, and there's no win win situation at hand. We count our loses, and if we manage to forgive, then we can absolve ourselves of pain, guilt, and resentment.

The song I have chosen was used in the trailer for the movie, and if you were paying good enough attention, played right after Miranda and Steve's session with their counselor. It was the tune that played as Miranda and Carrie talked in the park. The song was written by Don Henley, Mike Campbell, and J. D. Souther and was released in 1990 as part of Don Henley's third solo album "The End of Innocence". Don Henley is a member of the famed country/rock band The Eagles. The song is lyrically beautiful, poignant, and touches on the basic and most human of emotions that we go through as far as reasons and absolution. India.Aire recorded a cover version that was the one used for the film. It's one of the few times when a cover actually gave justice to such a wonderful piece. She released it along with a few other great songs in 2006 for her "Testimony: Vol 1, Life & Relationship". My cousin gave me this album back in 06 and have always loved this version.

I've gone through times in my life where I needed forgiveness and have given it as well. I'm making a lot of apologies to myself, and there's one big one that I've yet to accept. There are times when I thought I had forgiven, when in fact I hadn't just because the betrayal was too much to just be dismissed. This is what makes us human. We don't forgive sometimes cause in our hearts we know it would just be a lie. I couldn't do it, even as a consolation prize.

Let us meditate on these thoughts, and listen closely to India.Aire as she brings us to "The Heart of the Matter".